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Hi everyone from Aidpage, 

 

It has been a long time since I've been on here.  It hasn't changed much for my daughter and me these last several months.  Maybe gotten worse, maybe stays the same, really. Just like so many other struggly people on this site and all over the world, we are constantly struggling to just get a breath arean't we?  Who was it that said money can't buy you happiness?  Must have been rich.  It sure can buy a big down payment for it.  lol. Anyway, I've seen that it is very difficult in Orange County, California to get anyone to help. I am confused as to where all of these charities send their donations, because I have called a list of over 20 places, diligently for the past four months.  On the first of the month, I'm told they haven't received the funds, by the second of the month when I call, i get told the funds are spent.  All in less than 1 day?  Seriously. I'm a working single mother.  there are supposed to be tons of grants and/or help for ANYONE let alone someone with a child that already has a job.  This economy is a killer.  As  a server, i rely on my tips.  When nobody comes into the place, I get no tips.  Don't people still eat anymore?  Thank goodlness for the restaurant, or we wouldn't eat like we do. I had my car stolen this last weekend so it is twice as hard now to get around to ry to find any work.  I am 500 short for rent this month and the landlord is basically irritated beyond with me and my "excuses" as he puts it.  I'm beginning to think I'd be better off in a shelter. Or if i had no job. Then I could play all day with my daughter and not worry a bout rent.  So here goes.  I'm gonna post on here and everywhere I can trying to find anyone that could help donate, loan, direct how to get some money.  I really hope to find one of those car programs that can help get me into a car.  I see there are programs that lease to single working moms, just nothing in california really.  Hope everyone is well....

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ruth4vs11
 in response to Starshine...   star,
I know what it feels like to have your entire world come crashing down. I spent 2 months homeless in the dead of winter last year. (after my hubby who i loved with all my heart chose someone else.) I not only was rejected by him , his family, but also our homechurch _he is still the sunday school teacher.) I was jobless (as he had not wanted me to work for years.) homeless. and penniless when he kicked me and the 2 children out. I was heart broken and had just found out (which to THIS DAY have not told him) that i had a type of lymphatic cancer.... I was hours from my own family.. and often i would go back and forth from being angry and depressed to MAKING myself thankful for what i was going through. The one thing i clung to was the HOPE that all the terror i was enduring would HELP someone else. Because I choose Not to Believe that we go through horrible things or scarey times just to harm us. Some days i prayed i could just Go Home to heaven. other days I made it a point to go out and Find someone else to Bless (even while i had Nothing) still there were days that i wrestled with suicide thoughts. I wish hon that i had any money i could give to you . I am like you . I living on nothing but Faith and working the hours i am able with autistic kids here in arkansas. wondering if or when things will change. I too have investigated websites for earning extra money and the free car wrap ads.. along with mystery shopper or online jobs.. but i havent found anything there that will help either of us. I just wanted you to know .. your not alone. Many of us are hurting and struggling.. wondering a hoping... and doing our best to feel like a winner in spite of what things seem. even for a strong lady of faith its almost too much of a strain .. i suppose you may have more grit than you give yourself credit. so start there.. find a a way or purpose a direction for YOU.. not just a job. its what im doing . and it is helping me feel beautiful and worth more than the big ole floppy loser and nothing i had started to think i was. in the mean time. i encourage you to do what need yeshua encouraged "That mean's we have to trust, and release our faith in HIM that HE will allow thing's to work out in his timing. Not always easy, but it's worth it in the long run. " I just BET you will find out that "Sometime's God doesn't answer some prayer's because HE has something better lined up in the future" ahaha... last and not least ..get some gal friends that are so hilarious they keep you laughing no matter how bad things look... because Laughter does good like a "Strong Medicine. "
Bridget
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Need_yeshua
 in response to tinkherbelly...   Thing's don't always work out the way you plan, and sometime's they don't work out at all.
What matter's most is God is first. We acknowledge HIM in all of our way's, and HE will direct our steps, and make them sure. Sometime's God doesn't answer some prayer's because HE has something better lined up in the future. That mean's we have to trust, and release our faith in HIM that HE will allow thing's to work out in his timing. Not always easy, but it's worth it in the long run. I can relate to being baptized. I went through the same thing, but the 2nd time was my choice. That's something should be upon the age of accountability. Depend's on the child. Continue to seek God, and He will be faithful to open door's. I will continue to pray on your behalf.
Shalom, love, and blessing's.
Mike
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tinkherbelly
 in response to Need_yeshua...   thank you mike for your kind words (and also very honest and truthful words). God is with me every day. I am appreciative for ALL blessings in my life and have never been one to worry too much when things start to look bleak. Some say that I don't care and that I should be hustling about more to try to get myself out of any given circumstance....but it always does work out. That doesn't mean I shouldn't try to still make a physical and conscious effort to keep me from living in the streets, or a shelter. Although I would survive (with a smile i might add), society these days don't look very fondly on having your children not have a home, and so i am here asking for help. I was baptized two years ago, by choice this time. I know things will work out, but I still need to put my own work in to help myself. Thank you and God bless!
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Need_yeshua
Keep God first in your life. Get plugged into a thriving church. If you keep God first in your life. Your worries will become less. God is faithful,and God is good. = ) God will bless you if you keep HIM first in your life. Then you do what you can do, and by faith God will do what you can't. I have seen it with my own eye's. You, and your daughter will be in good hand's. God never want's to be tested, by HE love's to be tried. What do you mean tried? I mean you read his word, and you stand on his promise's that you will see these promise's being fulfilled in your own family. I have resource's on my homepage about God, and other resource's may assist you. Pray first. Seek God first. We seek thing's first, and we need to keep God first in everything. I will pray for you, and if you trust God. I promise you will be fine. = ) The cool thing is God is omnipresent. He is here with me on the east coast as well with you on the west coast. ; ) Shalom, love, and blessing's. Mike
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Starshine
 in response to tinkherbelly...   You are welcome. I know what you meant but even downtown to the shops is like being in Disneyland. I left you a one to one message so check that too.
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tinkherbelly
 in response to Starshine...   Thanks starshine.  we didn't get to go to disneyland, just downtown to the shop.  But it was Disneyland to us.  lol
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Starshine
 in response to tinkherbelly...   Good check out that site and I am ok with wishes. I put a few wishes in and got one granted for shoes but I haven't found the same shoes in black..I will do my own wishing but do give it a try for you and your girl. Good luck and thank you for the offer...
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Starshine
 in response to tinkherbelly...   

Oh you are welcome so much. You know children just love spending time together with mom or mom and dad. They don't care really what you do together but that you do something together that makes them feel special. I am happy you had a great, fun time together...Disneyland is cool. I am glad you got to both go. Bless you

Starshine

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tinkherbelly
 in response to Starshine...   i'm gonna check out that sight starshine and put our wishes in.  Thanks so much.  Can i put one of the wishes in for you? What's your wish?
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tinkherbelly
 in response to Starshine...   thanks so much starshine.  Wow, this place has been motivational and inspiring.  I guess as moms (or dads, single folk, etc.) we sometimes get lost in our own "ethnocentric" world and forget that there are so many wonderful people out there that go through the same issues we do.  After your kind words from the people that responded (big thanks by the way), i woke up with a different idea.  I figure I can keep looking to go to SeaWorld.  I'm sure someone will come around at the right time, so I told Izzy we were going to go spend the $35.00 we had put aside for Sea World on something just for the two of us today.  She was so sad.  Until she saw where we went.  Downtown Disney for Build a Bear workshop.  We made our own bear that says I love you when you sp squeeze the hand and she was so happy just to spend the day together.  It's a beautiful day.  How was your day?  Find something small to brighten it up.  It really works.  Bless all.  Tink
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Starshine

Hello Lori and Lizzi

I was touched when I read about you wanting to take your daughter to Sea World. 

Try this 

http://www.wishuponahero.com/

you can put three wishes at a time there at WUAH

I waistressed for a while at Bob's Big Boy that dates me. I ate a lot there as much of it was free but burned it off racing around working.  I did two more waitressing jobs and found work elsewhere later but that was long ago.

I hope you get your wish fullfilled for your daughter. And she needs to be treated better at school. 

Starshine

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